The larger point is that, with the gods of empowerment cheering in the background, society has embraced concepts like confidence and self-esteem despite scant evidence that they're reliably correlated with positive outcomes. The work of legitimate psychology notables Roy Baumeister and Martin Seligman indicates that often, high self-worth is a marker for negative behavior, as diagnosed in sociopaths and drug kingpins. Furthermore, self-esteem may be expressed in the kind of braggadocio -"I'm fine just the way I am, thank you" - that actually inhibits personal growth.Read the rest of "Overdosing on Oprah" here.
I'm reading a related book in snippets - One Nation Under Therapy: How the Helping Culture is Eroding Self-Reliance. Its authors, Christina Hoff Sommers and Sally Satel, M.D., reject what they call the doctrine of "therapism" which:
....valorizes openness, emotional self-absorption and the sharing of feelings. It encompasses several additional assumptions: that vulnerability, rather than strength, characterizes the American psyche; and that a diffident, anguished, and emotionally apprehensive public requires a vast array of therapists, self-esteem educators, grief counselors, workshoppers, healers, and traumatologists to lead it through the trials of everyday life. Children, more than any group, are targeted for therapeutic improvement (p. 5).I'm still in the first chapter ("The Myth of the Fragile Child") in which the authors also cite the research conducted by Roy Baumeister et al. The study found no significant connection between feelings of high self-worth and academic achievement, interpersonal relationship, or healthy lifestyles. Sommers and Satel write:
On the contrary, high self-regard is very often found in people who are narcissistic and have an inflated sense of popularity and likeability. Such self-aggrandizing beliefs, said the authors, exist "mainly in their own minds." Furthermore, those with exaggerated estimates of self-worth often become hostile when others criticize or reject them. "People who have elevated or inflated views of themselves tend to alienate others," the authors concluded (pp. 31-32).I think a persuasive case can be made that therapism has invaded the church and, in many cases, has become the hermeneutic lens through which we understand the gospel. It is therapism that leads some to insist that implicit in Christ's commands to love God with our whole selves and our neighbor as ourselves is the mandate to love ourselves. Therapism leads us to believe that unmet needs rather than craving hearts are the cause of our sins. Therapism advocates forgiving primarily because of its therapeutic benefits contrary to the Bible's emphasis on our extending forgiveness because we have been mercifully forgiven by a thrice-holy God through the blood of His Son's cross.
Therapism is a powerful expression of the spirit of our age which we must understand if we are to heed the call not to be conformed to it. The following quote from Wendy Kaminer's I'm Dysfunctional, You're Dysfunctional: The Recovery Movement and Other Self-Help Fashions evidences that the world is watching:
Although many, if not most, religious books are published by religious presses and speak to subcultures of believers, especially conservative Christians, they partake in prevailing mainstream notions about goodness, health, selfhood, and social relations (p. 123).
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These are topics for which I carry such passion! Mike's comments about bruised reeds made me think of Richard Sibbes work on the topic. "It is a very hard thing to bring a dull and evasive heart to cry with feeling for mercy. Our hearts, like criminals, until they are beaten from all evasions, never cry for the mercy of the Judge. Again, this bruising makes us set a high price upon Christ. Then the gospel becomes the gospel indeed; then the fig-leaves of morality will do us no good. And it makes us more thankful, and from thankfulness, more fruitful in our lives; for what makes many so cold and barren, but that bruising for sin never endeared God's grace to them?"
Some 350 years ago William Bridge in his work "A Lifting up for the Downcast" identified nine areas that cause people discouragement*. 1) Their greater and grosser sins, 2) Weak understanding of grace, 3) Failing or non-acceptance of duty 4) Non assurance of the love of God, 5)Temptation, 6) Fear of being deserted by God, 7)Affliction, 8) Unserviceableness (lack of usefulness), 9) The condition itself (discouragement untreated leads to more and deeper discouragement). The cure? "And so the doctrine plainly is this: Faith is the help against all discouragements."
The common threads in Sibbes' and Bridges' are sin and theology. The majority of today's Christian counseling authors list everything from bad boundaries, unsafe people, lack of self-esteem, chemical imbalances and a variety of disorders as our sources of discouragement. There are also two pervasive themes; victimization and the medical or disease model.
Proverbs 14:2 warns us "there is a way which seems right to a man but in the end leads to death." Paul told Timothy in I Timothy 1:5 "...but the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart, a good conscience and a sound faith." These are the standards I have adopted as a counselor and frankly I'll take Sibbes and Bridges over Cloud and Townsend et al any day.
*350 years ago discouragement was also described as cast-down and disquieted -all of which was seen as calamitous.
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